11 Reasons Why Bullies Bully
11 REASONS WHY BULLIES BULLY
Bullying is the use of force, threat or coercion to aggressively dominate or intimidate another person…intentionally!
Bullies come in all shapes, colors, sizes and genders too. Bullies can be very young or very old.
Bullies cause discomfort to those they abuse and a bully can be anyone there is no set example of “this is a bully”.
You don’t always recognize the bully until you see them in action or hear of their actions and a bully can be quick to cover up their actions or fear of discipline.
- LACK OF ATTENTION
To a child attention can be attention, any attention and when that attention is negative it still gives the person the attention they desire.
- WANTS TO APPEAR TOUGH
There is a little person inside all of us and to the bully their little person needs to bully people in order to feel good or “bigger”. The way it works is by abusing another person makes you feel better when in fact it makes you look smaller in the eyes of anyone watching or hearing.
- BAD HOME LIFE / ABUSE
Coming from a bad home life or abusive home creates an abusive person, possibly because of the hurt from home they want to hurt others or it becomes a learned behavior from a very young age growing up abused. This bully is hurting and he/she wants others to feel their pain.
- EXPOSURE TO VIOLENT GAMES/MOVIES
What you see is what you do, right? I mean if you see it on TV or see it enough then it’s okay to do. We laugh at verbal abuse in movies and we gasp at violence on video games but in reality these things
- MISERY LOVES COMPANY
If the bully is miserable and someone else is happy the best opportunity to bring someone down to their level is to make others feel miserable too.
- LACK OF EMPATHY
To the bully there may just be an issue with not understanding how other people feel so they say things that hurt and do not care because they have no idea how it hurts.
- JEALOUSY
Jealousy can cause a best friend to turn their back on you and jealousy can make someone bully you because they are jealous of what you have or who you are or possibly how you carry yourself and they just want to “knock you down” a little as well.
- BEST WAY NOT TO BE BULLIED
If you are the bully who is going to bully you? Sounds logical right, until a bigger bully comes around.
- LOW SELF ESTEME
When someone does not feel well about themselves and they see someone who appears better off or more confident the bully turns to bullying to feel better about themselves by hurting the other person.
- BECAUSE THE OTHER PERSON WAS “DIFFERENT”
This one is unfortunately a given in our society and century, we don’t understand something and we attack it instead of embrace it. Diversity is an amazing thing and yet so frightening to a bully.
- CONTROL
Controlling a situation by controlling the people around you by bullying them, that way you control the mood and atmosphere.
THE CYBER BULLY
It seems like everyone is on he internet and I joke with my children that in my nursing home, there will be computers in each room, probably more of a reality then a joke.
Along with all the amazing things the internet brings us, it also carries some bad, one of those bad things are cyber bullies. Anonymity behind the keyboard and screen it’s worse then a prank phone call and it seems the abuse from the Internet hits a nerve. Deeply.
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